Saturday, December 10, 2011
This week was part two of parenting. What interest me the most was the discussion on the predictors for divorce. Perhaps it is because I want to do everything I can to make sure my marriage is as happy as can be. Or maybe it is because I want to be able to inform others. Either way, It is my topic for today. One of the predictors for divorce can be how religious a couple is. Usually, the more religious a couple is, the less likely they are to divorce. Part of this could be due to the fact that they have strong morals and values. Most religions also put an emphasis on good marriages as well. Those whose parents have been divorced increases their chance of divorce as well. This could be because they never learned how to problem solve well, or maybe that is how they think a relationship works. Prior divorce also increases the risk. Our textbook said that some divorced people expect their new spouse to have the qualities that their former spouse did not, therefore having too high of expectations. They may also look for a spouse who was much like their former spouse, though not knowing it. Either of these could cause another tension and a troublesome relationship.
Friday, December 2, 2011
This week was all about parenting. What stuck out to me the most were the different type of parenting styles. The first is Autocratic, or Authoritarian. This style is well known for being strict, giving children pressure and few choices of their own, and giving direction. In this type of parenting, The child usually chooses to rebel against their parents or receives no responsibility, and as a result, doesn't learn to take care of themselves. The second parenting style is known as Permissive. These parents usually want to be their child's best friend and gives little to no discipline. Their children tend to be attention-seeking and wonder if their parents ever really cared about them. The third parenting style is Active, or Authoritative. These parents usually have a great balance of control and choices for their children. Of course, children in this situation tend to be most stable and well adjusted. Parents will listen to their children and give them choices, but will also give consequences and discipline when needed. These parents show love and respect to their children, while still maintaining control and respect from them.