Finance

This week in class, family finance was the topic of discussion. We read a talk by Elder Marvin J. Ashton called "One for the Money." He mentions several points in money management, but the one that stuck out to me the most was to learn self-discipline and self-restraint in money matters. This was probably one of the hardest concepts for me when I first came out to school. Back in high school, I had a job and made enough money to pay tithing, save some, and the rest on whatever I wanted. However, when I came up to BYU-I, I did not have a job, therefore I lived off of my savings. It became really hard for me to retrain myself to only buy the things that were necessary. After some budgeting and self-discipline, I was able to use my money wisely. It was a long hard journey, but I felt so good knowing that I learned how to live on a low budget. These skills have helped me when I got married. My husband and I both are able to live on a budget, and are careful to remember when and when not to splurge. I plan on teaching my children from a very early age how to self-discipline themselves and put it into action.

The Council Method

I absolutely love the council method. In class, I learned all about the way the church councils and how it benefits everybody. When the prophet and the twelve meet for councils (every Thursday at the Salt Lake Temple) they come early to greet and express love to one another. When it is time to start, they have a prayer to invite the spirit. After this, the brethren will council together using the Lord's will, not their own opinion. The prophet will start, and then each councilor, followed by the twelve, in order. This gives everyone the chance to speak, and if inspired, introduce changes or a new idea. If a change occurs, the men will then start over and make their way around the circle again. Once finished, they have another prayer, and "break bread" with some chocolate.
I love this method. My husband use it, and I find that it helps us to each have a say and calmly work out a current issue or just have some time to plan out a hectic week. I want to continue using the council method as our family grows. I think this will help everyone to grow closer together while teaching our children the importance of respect and orderly discussion.  

Family Crisis

In class, Brother Williams taught that there are two words that describe a crisis: danger and opportunity. I found this fascinating because I had never really taken much thought to a crisis within a family. When a family finds themselves in a crisis, they have the advantage to choose to make it an opportunity to grow and learn, or to let it endanger their family relations. There are three factors that go into the experience of a family crisis, known as the ABCX. A is the actual event. Some of these are preventable, some are not. B is the behavioral response to the event. C is the cognition, the way we think or view the event. All these add up to equal X, the experience. Our behavioral response and view on the crisis largely effect each other. Hopefully, we think before we act. This gives the opportunity to think positively about the crisis and find different solutions, not to mention, try to stay positive.
 We also learned that a crisis can be almost anything. From buying a house, to losing a family member, everything depends on how the situation is handled. Hopefully, in the future, I will remember to stay positive and turn dangers into opportunities.

Emotional Fidelity

Everyone knows that having an affair is morally wrong and hurtful to their spouse. However, there are many who do not protect themselves from emotional affairs. Making an emotional connection with someone can be easier than one thinks. Once you become emotionally attached, you are more likely to give yourself sexually to this person. This can be very dangerous and hard to avoid if you don't look out for it. For example, coworkers of the opposite sex may have to spend time alone together to get a work project done, or ride in a car together. However impossible it seems to avoid doing things together with the opposite sex that isn't your spouse, try to avoid it as much as possible. Where there's a will, there's a way! In class, we discussed how it is so important to keep private subjects between husband and wife. If some vents to a coworker, they may receive validation, which, in return, can form emotional attachments. You could then be wondering why your spouse isn't more like so-and-so. This is the reason for so many affairs -- emotional attachment. We also discussed how important it is to put boundaries on friendships when you start to date someone seriously. Your spouse should be the most important person to you, they are your best friend. This is why your best buddy when you were single no longer receives the attention that should be allotted to your spouse. It is so important to respect your spouse and any problems they may have concerning the opposite sex.